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Successful Meetings Start with This

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Over time, you’re going to notice a pattern with me.  Meetings are a hot topic for me.  I am a proponent of fewer meetings on the calendar, and my most viewed reel on Instagram is a picturesque landscape that simply says “This could have been an email”.  Despite my disdain for meetings, I have an extensive background in PMO, a group notorious for process and meetings and have facilitated my fair share of them. 

I will let you in on a secret.  I don’t hate meetings.  I hate poorly run meetings.

Meeting facilitation is an artform and I am sure I will be writing many more articles that break down what it takes to run a successful meeting.

Today I’ll focus on the center of the meeting: the agenda.  The secret here is, you will have two agendas.  The publicly facing agenda in the meeting invite and a second, secret agenda, just for yourself.  This second secret agenda is really just a glorified outline, but I much prefer calling it a secret agenda.  Makes any meeting more exciting.

The First Agenda

The agenda included in the meeting invite sets the stage for the attendees.  Why are you meeting?  What do you want to accomplish?  What are we going to talk about?  Why was I included in this thing?

I suggest drafting the agenda before you even set your attendee list.  What you want to achieve and what you plan to talk about should drive who is invited.  So often people go through the motions and add dozens of people that really aren’t all that relevant to a conversation.  Starting with your agenda can aid in cutting back in an extraneous invite list.

Your agenda at the highest level should have the following:

  • An objective:  What is the end goal for this meeting?  What problem are you solving, what mission does this meeting have? 

But Tracy, this is a reoccurring project status meeting, why would I even bother putting an objective on here? 

Even the humble status meeting has an objective and you should reiterate why you’re meeting.  Not every project deserves a recurring meeting.  Why is this project important?  Perhaps there is a date this project needs to hit that should be drilled into the memory of every team member working on it.  Emphasize that in the objective.

  • An Agenda:  Ok you got me, this is a bit redundant, but what I mean for this section is what topics (and in what order) do you plan to review?  If you’re having a hard time arriving at a set of topics, start by asking yourself questions that you would hope to resolve from this meeting, to achieve the above objective.  Write down all of your questions and then start to group those questions into sections, that will in turn become your agenda.

Hopefully after you notate your list of topics, the order will be apparent.  If it’s not, think about ordering them how they chronologically occur, or perhaps the topics that are highest priority first, to ensure they are covered.

Note:  Some meetings are status meetings for a program or list of projects.  While you might not need to list out all the projects in the agenda, the list should be accessible somewhere for your attendees to review and prepare for.  If it is this type of meeting you’re running, use the agenda section to document what topics each project should discuss when it is their turn.  This will prepare the attendees for the information they should come to the meeting prepared with (which fingers crossed, should result in a more productive meeting). Having a standardized set of talking points will also keep the call structured and ideally eliminate meandering tangents.  As the meeting facilitator it is your job to ensure the conversation sticks to the agenda of course.

Bonus Tip:  After you compile your agenda, note who in your organization is needed to contribute to each topic.  This list of individuals will become your mandatory attendees.  Following that, think through any backups to the mandatory attendees, people that need to be aware of the conversation, etc. This list will be your optional attendees.  Don’t bend over backward trying to find time that works for everyone, focus on your mandatory attendees.

The Second (Secret) Agenda

(or Outline if you refuse to indulge me)

This second artifact is a guide for yourself, an outline on how to facilitate the conversation.  You should start with the agenda in the meeting invite as a base and expand upon it in greater detail so you have all the pertinent information at your disposal.

Think through all the questions you asked yourself to build the agenda, place them throughout your outline as they are appropriate.  Who would you pose these questions to?  Include them in this outline so you know who to quickly pivot a question or topic to (and I am a proponent of pointing questions to specific people.  It doesn’t put them on the spot, it allows a conversation to move more efficiently so nobody is standing around twiddling their thumbs wondering if that question was for them).

Also include the last status detail in this outline so you can reference it as you segue from topic to topic.  Plenty of meetings are filled with people regurgitating the same bit of information every week, hoping nobody realizes that it’s just the same thing they said last time.  Beat these people to the punch and reference what was last said which you will have available in this outline so that you have a more productive conversation.

Notate if there are specific decisions that need to be made for each section as well.  This will help you ensure that conversation stays on topic and if a decision is achieved you can move onto the next.

Lastly, if there are a lot of topics that need to be covered, review your outline and divide out some estimated durations for each subject to fit within the allotted time.  While you can’t exactly predict how long a certain section should take to get through, you can make an educated guess and use that to determine if you need to move your meeting along to cover everything in the agenda.

Remember, meeting facilitation is an art form and the best way to improve is by running many meetings. Repetition will expose you to a variety of scenarios and train you on how to respond, pivot, and lead a successful conversation.

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The Promotion Game; How to Justify a Climb up the Ladder

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I wish promotions were doled out in an efficient and logical manner, automatically rewarding those that work hard and are truly deserving of moving up the ranks.  I wish all managers were well versed in career coaching and people management to properly get their employees where they need to be for success (sadly many are put into people management roles that are simply ill equipped for this responsibility, but that’s for another day).  Unfortunately, we are not in that reality.  For most, you will need to be your own advocate and justify the role you want as part of your overall career plan.

I’ve gathered some of the key elements that should go into an effective promotion pitch to your boss.  While none of this is a science, but this will certainly help you put your best foot forward.

I should also note that I am skipping the existential ennui of “what do I want to be?” and “what does my career path look like for me?” in this article.  There are many resources out there to aid you in finding your passion, and I am sure somewhere down the line I’ll walk through my own journey to that discovery.  All of my below points assume that you have arrived at a role/title that is in alignment with your trajectory and we will work from there.

Comps

Look around your company for equitable levels.  Do others have the title and role you’re going for?  Doing your best to not be a complete creeper, find out how many years of relevant work experience they have.  Try to objectively look at how they compose themselves at work and identify soft skills that they thrive at that you know you could work on.  I say tread lightly in this area, as you can quickly devolve into a jealous mentality, wondering why this person got where they are and you have not.  Look at it from an objective lens and know that this is to help you get to that level as well.

If there are no others at your company with the level you want, do some research online.  Find similar sized companies in your industry and look at job postings for the role you’re after.  Pay particular attention to years experience and skillset to see if you’re already there, or if perhaps you need more time.  I’ll caution that this isn’t to hold you back from still going for it, but it can be a neutral voice in assessing where you stand.

Metrics

Incorporating quantifiable metrics in addition to soft skills and years of experience will make your case more objective.  Find a metric that you can consistently track over time to illustrate an increase in workload, productivity, revenue, profit, etc.  Procurement Specialist?  Track the number of POs you process. Technician?  Track the number of tickets you close.  Are you in Sales?  There are a wide array of metrics on your deals that are likely already being tracked and you should be able to pull from your company’s system as well.

Improvements

Did you fix a broken process or implement a new one?  Keep track of that, and better yet, quantify what the improvement was (going forward, identify a metric ahead of the implementation to keep track of to illustrate improvements).  Does your new process save time? Money?  The more impact the better (obviously).

Beyond rolling out something, I encourage you to document your wins.  Did a project come in on time (or early)? On or under budget? Did you save the day on a tense situation with a customer?  No item too big or too small should be neglected in what you pull together.  Once you start approaching your meeting with your boss feel free to tailor the list down to some of the larger items, but keep that total running list, it’ll boost your confidence regardless.

The New Role

Outside of your prior accomplishments justifying a better title, what responsibilities would you take on in this position? Some companies are very liberal with title bumps and this definition isn’t necessary, but others do expect you to take on more if they promote you. Look through the above comps and pay close attention to the job descriptions. Are there elevated tasks you could add into your pitch that you will take responsibility for with this promotion? Note that.

Of course, perhaps you already went above and beyond and started taking on all these tasks ahead of a formal promotion. If that’s the case, be sure to indicate that and try to pull out the job description you were hired on to fulfill, showing that you have now surpassed the expected responsibilities of that position.

The Meeting

Give your boss at least a week’s notice that you’d like to discuss your career path at your company.  This gives them some time to think through their own thoughts, and, nothing is worse than being blindsided on this type of conversation.  If they are a great people manager invested in your success, they will come to this conversation with some thoughts to make it more meaningful.  That’s a big if though.

In all likelihood you will not have an answer immediately after this initial conversation.  There will probably be feedback on your performance and things you need to work on that will get you to the level you are asking for. 

Follow up after the conversation summarizing your conversation with a quick note.  This will probably freak out your boss, that you’re documenting this to get agreement in writing (which you are, lets be honest).  This is important though to stave off amnesia that your boss may have down the line on the conversation and be done from a passive perspective that should hopefully calm down an anxious manager.  Send over the documentation you put together as an attachment and indicate your follow up is to get them this detail.  At the same time, acknowledge any feedback they had on things you should focus on.

Template:

Hello,

I appreciated our conversation earlier regarding my career path, specifically my interest in pursuing a [JOB TITLE] position.  I wanted to follow up and send over the supplemental details I referenced on the call regarding my work performance to date.

I also appreciated the feedback you provided and I plan to work on [INSERT ANY MANAGERIAL FEEDBACK PROVIDED FROM MEETING].

Thanks,

[YOUR NAME]

And there you go.  A simple email that can capture your conversation in a relatively non-confrontational way.

The Waiting Game

Companies are funny. They typically have a promotional cycle once or twice a year that most promotions wind up being lumped into.  Depending on the timing of your conversation it may be some time before the next round of budgeting, but hopefully your manager will give you some insight into what that process is and provide you some transparency.  I encourage you to continue your dialogue as you meet with your manager to get a status (or provide updates on what you’re working on), but I would not ask about it every week.  It gets incredibly depressing to keep asking and be told “no updates”.

As you wait, keep an eye on what’s going on with others in your organization.  Are there a lot of one-off promotions happening out of cycle?  Ask your boss about it.  I have been told numerous times that each one of these darlings were snowflakes that broke the promotion cycle mold and they absolutely needed to happen but the promotion you put in for needed to wait with the rest of the batch.  Those one-offs also likely happened at the result of an ultimatum (see my thoughts below on that subject).  Enough of those will likely break your spirit. 

I can’t tell you how long is the right amount of time to keep playing this waiting game (again, depending on the cycle it could be 6-12 months), but I can tell you that if your promotion is drawn out or continually delayed this is a red flag and you should contemplate looking elsewhere.   Good news though, you already have a set of metrics, process improvements, and accomplishments that can serve as the base of your updated resume.  Also hopefully the next company has a bit more of established career path and promotion from within policy.    

The Ultimatum

It will be tempting to throw a hail mary and threaten to leave if they don’t promote you.  This will likely get you the quickest results possible but to me it comes at a cost.  First, you will be the ultimatum guy (or person) to upper management.  They will look at you and remember that you forced their hand, held the productivity of the organization hostage with your threat of leaving.  That leaves a bad taste. You likely will not get promoted again after that, certainly not through another ultimatum.  At this point you have already indicated that you have looked elsewhere and have been on the brink of exit, which can only lead to trust issues at that point.

Beyond just management, your co-workers will know because there’s nothing employees love more than office gossip.  Some may laud your courage; others will resent you for it.  There are people across the organization in your same situation, trying to justify their promotions through their prior work performance and career aspirations.  I can assure you that they are likely awaiting the next promotion round and being advised that there are no off cycle promotions, only to see someone else get it through this hostage situation.

I’ll wrap this up by saying, if you are at the point where you are comfortable threatening your management with an exit if you don’t get promoted, it’s likely time to exit. 

Maximize Your 1:1s to Support Your Growth

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Visibility and perception are key in the corporate world, and that starts with your relationship with your direct supervisor.  Preparing your talking points ahead of your meetings and applying some structure around them yourself can result in great returns (while also providing your boss with some guidance on how best to support you).

Most managers (myself and others I’ve come across) establish a weekly 1:1 cadence for everyone on their team.  While some managers may have a formal agenda/format, many do not.  Below is an outline of how you can organize your thoughts and drive the conversation in a way that benefits yourself, and more specifically, your career path.

Weekly:  Key status updates and issues

This is likely what your standard 1:1 is currently, but I’ll reiterate, on a weekly basis you should be bringing brief status updates on the high priority projects you’re working on.  You can make it even simpler and just mention something is on track if there are no issues.

If there are issues you’re facing, your should bring them to your manager for assistance.  Where projects might be stuck, or you need them to step in as an escalation point.  An even better approach for these is to bring a recommended solution(s) for their feedback, they’ll appreciate that.

Track these issues when they get talked about in your 1:1s, your manager’s response, and what the next action is. This can be a simple table like below, to help track what you’re raising and their respective status so nothing drops.

Project/AreaIssue Date RaisedAction OwnerNext Action Deadline

Monthly: Your career planning

There should be a clear dialogue about what you want for your career and what you and your boss are doing to get you there.  There is a high likelihood that you will need to be the one to initiate this conversation and take ownership, it is your career after all.

To ensure there’s momentum following an initial conversation regarding your career path, once a month raise the topic and mention what you’ve done this past month to advance. Perhaps there were some recommendations from your boss for you to take on previously, report on your progress on them.

Every 6 months: Your job performance

Many companies have a formal performance review process (some yearly, others twice a year).  Regardless, it’s a good idea to do a mid-year check in on how you’re doing.  Take the feedback from your last review and document ways you have worked to improve on that.

If you are proceeding with an off-cycle performance review, give your boss a couple weeks’ notice that you want to do this.  They will need time to put together some meaningful feedback, rather than providing it on the fly.

My Layoff Stories; From Laid Off to Being Left Behind

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I had other topics I slated to post this week, but the ongoing news of the layoffs in the tech industry made me take pause.  I have been on both sides of the fence; I have been laid off and I have been someone “left behind” in the aftermath.  While I think the anxiety of losing your income and job far exceeds anything else, the impacts of staying on after a layoff can be significantly impactful as well.

Each situation was unique and I’ve learned more about myself every time.  Below I highlight those experiences and some takeaways from both sides of the fence.

Laid Off – 2009

In 2008 I started my first job out of college for a consulting company, technically it was for Technology Risk but most of the work was IT SOX Compliance.   

I was three weeks onto the job and my company did their first round of layoffs.  I was not part of this round and I honestly didn’t know any of those that were.  I hardly knew anyone there.  I received my first assignment and did not think much of how my company was faring.

In the next few months there were two more rounds and by the third one I was numb to news as many companies were making cuts as we were deep into the Great Recession .  I was in the middle of a longer assignment and felt secure in my position, but I had started to realize that perhaps IT SOX Compliance was not my passion in life.

Almost a year to the day there were murmurs that it was time for round 4 of layoffs.  I was on an assignment and didn’t think I’d be in that round.  That denial only lasted a few hours as I had received “the call” later that day.  Since I was on assignment at a client, I was asked to come into the corporate office the next day.  There was a pit in my stomach at this point as I knew what it meant, but I just calmly asked if I should bring all company equipment in (why yes as a matter of fact).  And thus it was official: I was selected to be laid off in the fourth round.

My last day wasn’t dramatic, I don’t remember much from it.  I wasn’t passionate about this line of work and was ready to figure out what I wanted in life.  It was time.

I spent the next few months applying to jobs online that leveraged my prior experience and also attempted breaking into more non-standard opportunities.  I had always felt called to more creative pursuits but never went for it, so I took a stab at getting an internship in the film industry.  That didn’t pan out (you actually need experience of some kind to get an unpaid internship), but after a few months I did get an offer for an IT Executive Assistant position for an entertainment company.  It was an almost 50% pay cut but the jobs were not exactly plentiful at this point.

While in hindsight I probably could have held out for something closer in salary to what I was making, I don’t regret it. I learned a lot in that position and it became a stepping stone in my career.

Left Behind – 2014

Two jobs later I was in a PMO group in an IT department, also in the entertainment industry.  I had been there three years already, and while it was a rocky start, I eventually found a good spot overseeing the department’s yearly budget and procurement function.

The company struggled to adapt to a more digital landscape.  It took three years of employee gripes before anyone got a raise, those first three years I hadn’t even seen a cost of living increase. It did not appear to be thriving.

One day, as I was sitting in a meeting discussing implementing a new ticketing system, one by one my PMO colleagues (and boss) were taken aside by HR and told they were being laid off.  I remained in my own meeting, although I could hardly focus at that point.  Three hours later HR came by and told me the layoffs were over and I was being kept on.  I was the only one left.

I stayed another 10 months and at that point the PMO processes were abandoned and my sole focus was on budget management and procurement.  It was steady work that didn’t require much thinking and I had no idea what I wanted to do. It was a pretty lonely time there, I was just floating in this cubicle island, a small reminder to the rest of the organization of the team that used to be here.

After a few months of treading water I decided it was probably time to go. I wish I could say I made a concerted effort to think about my career path, but I still didn’t know what I could go for. I had settled nicely into a PMO role and those were the positions I went for. It took a few months but I eventually got a position in a PMO closer to the revenue side of the house.

Left Behind – 2019

Fast forward 5 years at this new company.  I had been promoted several times and enjoyed having a taste of operations work while still in a PMO function.  Over time there were challenges for the organization, revenue was impacted, and we had hired a large number of resources across the company.

Rumors of layoffs had been coming up for months, which did not surprise me.  I saw how our function was performing, how sales had been decreasing, to me it was an inevitability. Our team was roughly 13 by that time, with several reporting up to me.  While we were a large group, I did not think we would be hit that hard.

It was December and a cryptic company-wide meeting was on everyone’s calendar.  The CEO came on, read a brief script and said we would be divided into two groups, those staying on, and those being laid off.  I quickly found out I was being kept on and was relieved, but I then started to go around and pulse check on my team.  All but one that reported to me were being laid off.

By the end of the day our overall team was down to just four.

I stayed, but I also started casually looking at jobs elsewhere.  I was not getting a whole lot of interest and so I turned to focus on the decimated wasteland that was our organization.  By the middle of the year I was put in place to oversee the team, a natural progression for my career, but a tremendous challenge.  How could I keep this group motivated when I myself was still reeling from the events 7 months ago?

During this time I had a better idea of what I wanted my career to look like.  I communicated that to management and put in the effort to learn more about the business to support that trajectory.  While I was motivated on the one hand, on the other I constantly struggled in advocating for additional resources we badly needed at that point, reminded that this was now the second PMO team I was in that was gutted.  I took on a lot of work myself and could never get myself out of the day to day to progress my own career.

I naturally got burnt out and realized that I was doing a disservice to myself, my team, and the company.  I put more time in on my job search, and in ten months’ time I was weighing multiple job offers, one of which I accepted.

Recommendations if you Find Yourself Here:

If you’re laid off:

  • Take a moment (or two) to rest.  Following that rest period, take some time to reflect on what transpired and what you want for your future.
  • Lean into your LinkedIn network.  A theme in my career is that I never really utilized the connections I’ve made to seek out opportunities, which is a mistake.  My job search time probably would have been a fraction if I had only used my network more.
  • Block out time for your career daily.  Spending all day everyday combing job postings is not going to do you any favors.   Allocate 2 hours per day for your job search (updating your resume, applying online, finding networking events, etc).
  • Move for 20-30 minutes a day.  If you are fortunate enough to be able to go outside, go outside.  If you have limited space and no gym, there are thousands of resources on YouTube for free workouts you can do at home with little equipment.
  • Continue (or find) social activities. Getting out of the house and engaging socially helps both connecting to a potential network connection, as well as supporting your mental health.

If you are left behind:

  • Take some time to grieve your colleagues.  No, they have not died, but it can be a traumatic experience in that these people that were once around you day in day out are now gone.  Being kept on is a complicated mix of sadness, relief, guilt, confusion.  All of your emotions are valid and working through those will help you in the long run.
  • Build your emergency fund.  Not to be doomsday here, but many companies don’t have just one round of layoffs and it’s important to have a safety net.
  • Assess your career trajectory.  Are you in the place that will get you where you want?  Is your day to day still satisfactory?  Review what your workload has become now that the company has reduced its workforce.  This is a great time for a reality check on whether this is what you want to do the rest of your life as well. If not, you are still making a paycheck while you establish a plan to pivot your career path another direction.
  • Expand your LinkedIn network.  Add your colleagues (both still there or let go), these are people that can attest first hand to the quality of your work.  More companies have referral bonuses and so these people are incentivized to help you out, should you start looking.
  • Update your resume.  Even if you aren’t planning to leave, take some time to update your resume.  By the time you get to the point where you want to start looking, having to set aside time while you may be burnt out can be a hindrance. 

Top 3 Things to Do Your First Week on the Job

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If you find yourself starting a new job soon, congratulations! You have successfully navigated through the ATS bots, HR screens, multiple rounds of interviews and background checks to make it to where you are today.  Forbes estimates that an average of 118 people apply to each job posted and you triumphed over all of them.  Let’s take a brief moment to celebrate that.

Alright, now what.

In a Gallup poll, 88% of new hires indicated that their company did a poor job of onboarding. 

Your first week will likely be filled with HR orientation, onboarding, and paperwork.  It can be disorienting to make heads or tails of any organization at that point. You’re probably experiencing a rollercoaster of information overload and lengthy periods of downtime.

If you are starting in a new position and find your day a little vacant, I recommend you complete these three things in your first week while you are still new to better support yourself in the future. Future you will be so grateful.

Finish Your HR Training

This one may be a no brainer to some, and you very well could be forced into it by their organization, but I have seen people take their time on mandatory trainings when they start.  If your company has an automated training system, you will likely have 60 days to complete a lot of this mandatory training, but I recommend cranking it out now.  You will most likely have downtime, and some of these training courses can be quite extensive. 

Once you actually understand what your job is and you’re in 5+ meetings a day, are you really going to want to carve out two hours for sexual harassment (er, sensitivity in the workplace) training?  Probably not.  Do it now while your calendar is a barren wasteland.

Update Your Resume

Yes, now.

I know, I know. You just got done with an extensive job search and the last thing you want to do is revisit that resume you probably have ten versions of because, again, you wanted to beat those ATS bots and ensure you had those keywords were present.  However, now is a great time to add one more version to the repository.

You have no achievements to include here at this point, and I get that.  What I recommend is to add the basics (new company, title, date started) and take some of the key pieces of the job description you applied to and add them in as a placeholder.

If you don’t have your job description, there are a few ways to get it.  Firstly, your job may still be posted on your company’s career site.  If so, easy peasy, there you go.  If it’s not, it is very possible that it’s still lingering out there somewhere online.  There are many job posting aggregators that take jobs from other sites and repost them, only to leave them up for much longer than your new company has it up on their site. So I would recommend a Google search to see if it’s still floating out there. A third option, if you are so bold, is to reach out to your HR contact and ask for a copy of it to reference.  They should be accommodating on this request.

The reason I recommend updating your resume in your first week is because you have time right now and further down the road when you contemplate leaving, the thought of revisiting your resume and updating it can be daunting.  You may have reached the point of burnout at this stage and having to start a resume update from scratch with nothing to reference can be a huge impediment to starting your search.  Give future you a leg up and have some of the groundwork already done.

Conduct a Job Description Reconciliation

At the end of your first week, take that same job description and do an inventory of the items you’ve been trained on, have questions about, or haven’t witnessed at all yet.  Cross out items you have a good handle at that point (if any, it’s your first week), highlight areas that haven’t been discussed or you’re unclear on, and make note of tools referenced that you don’t have access to.

Use this reconcile in the coming weeks and continually do a check in with yourself on what you have learned versus what you have yet to see.  Is there a tool listed that you don’t even have access to? Is there a process that hasn’t come up yet?  Start noting these questions and discuss with your manager in your next sync up.

As a warning, some job descriptions are built on templates or kept in an HR repository and dusted off after years of sitting idle. You may find that the description does not align with your actual day to day. This can be an eye opener as well, that the job you applied to is not the one you were hired for, and something you should contemplate when thinking of your longevity with this organization.

Bonus Points

There are a number of other great things you can do to support yourself in your new job.  One thing I recommend as you start to attend meetings in your new company, is to conduct your own meeting assessment that I posted a couple weeks ago.  This assessment is table that includes an array of basic elements for meetings, and it can help you connect the dots as you ramp up (who participates in these calls, how many recurring meetings are there, does everyone share from the same system, do people send out notes, etc). Use this information to see the patterns and aid you when the time comes for you to start hosting calls.

Become a Better Speaker; Talk to Yourself

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Ah meeting facilitation.  It is an art form, it is.  It is so much so that one of my goals this quarter is to publish an online course on meeting facilitation.

There is plenty of advice out there on how to become a more confident speaker and presenter.  The easiest and most accessible one to me, the most bang for your buck is this:  talk to yourself.

When I had to speak in a company-wide meeting I was terrified.  Public speaking truly made me nervous, my heart rate would skyrocket (my apple watch would check in on me to see if I needed medical assistance…).  Yet ahead of that, when I was asked to present, I had to go for it.  One of my more annoying qualities is facing my fears like I’m jumping off a cliff. So, cutting to the chase, I went for it and I was scared.

How could I possibly be comfortable speaking to over 300 people if I couldn’t even speak to myself”

My method started with writing word for word what my brain wanted to say as a stream of consciousness.  It was messy, it was frenetic, but it was in my voice.  Then I did something that felt very uncomfortable: I read it out loud, alone.  I read it again and again as if I had people in front of me. I caught myself getting tripped up, stumbling on myself, and it initially felt embarrassing.  But I realized how could I possibly be comfortable speaking to over 300 people if I couldn’t even speak to myself. 

Eventually I abandoned that ad hoc script and just continued practicing and speaking to myself and the embarrassment subsided.  I felt confident alone, and in turn, felt confident in front of the masses.  It had become conversational for me which took the pressure off my heartrate and allowed me to be more at ease.

I’ve used this not just in presentations but also in regular meetings I’m running.  If I know a call is going to be drama, I write out an opening statement that I speak out loud ahead of that call to set the tone.  Now, I toss that statement out so it doesn’t sound like I’m reading from a piece of paper, but for today, our focus is only on talking to yourself.  Other meeting preparation and facilitation tips are for another day.

If you get better at speaking to yourself, I encourage you to take it a step further, record yourself. Watch it, see how you’re speaking, how you come across and how you can improve.  But for now, baby steps, and get comfortable talking to yourself.

Cancel all your Meetings this Month (or do this if you can’t bear that)

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Anyone enjoy that lull in the latter half of December?  That time when meetings start to drop off the calendar, when so many people are taking time off that meetings cease to exist because there’s literally no one to attend them (a bit of a tree falls in the woods scenario at this point)? 

You would think we’d learn, that we’d take a step back and do some philosophical soul searching at this point.  Do we really need all these meetings?  Where did all these meetings come from? 

But no, not only do we keep up the recurring calls of yesteryear, but we pile on top of that and add more meetings, meetings to achieve new objectives part of the new year corporate strategy.

So this January, cancel all your meetings.  As impediments are experienced, build back up the calendar with the mission critical calls needed to be successful. This is likely not feasible. What are we if not a string of back to back meetings to provide status updates on what we accomplish in the twenty minutes of downtime we have?

I imagine by end of Q1 chatter will start up about how there are too many calls on the calendar. Typically felt first by those doing the work, it’s then run up the ranks and layers of management, hoping for change. When this starts to pick up, I suggest managers (or really anyone) take an inventory on the state of the state for their group, long before putting an inevitable and dreaded “meeting on meetings” on the calendar.

“As a manager, one should understand the lay of the land and come to the table with an informed opinion on the state of the state when it comes to the meetings in their org”.

Hearing the feedback that there are too many calls on the calendar and then booking a meeting to discuss this is the lazy way out.  As a manager, one should understand the lay of the land and come to the table with an informed opinion on the state of the state when it comes to the meetings in their org. It takes some effort, but I’ve mapped out some basic assessment criteria that can provide insight into what’s really going on in your org.

This straight forward assessment can honestly be done by anyone. If you host several meetings yourself it can be helpful to understand the components of your meetings and do some analysis on the various elements of your calls.

The Meeting Assessment

Take a week’s worth of meetings you, your team, your org has on the calendar.  Take some time and attend as many as you can and map out the following details across them:

ElementDetail
Meeting TitleWhat’s the meeting subject? Can you immediately tell what it’s about at glance?
FacilitatorWho owns the invite and who runs the call?
Who is invited?How many people are invited to this? What is their role? What group are they in?
Who attends?Who actually shows up? What is their role? What group are they in?
Who actively participates?Who is engaged and participating in conversation? Does this include the facilitator?
AgendaIs an agenda included in the invite? What is the format? Is it clear what will be discussed? Are links and files included?
One Off/Recurring?Is this part of a meeting series? How often is it?
What is being shared?Is anything being shared on the screen? What system or format is it in?
Start TimeDid the call start on time? How late was it to begin? Why?
End TimeDid this call end on time? Early? Late? By how much?
Meeting NotesAre there notes? Are they sent out and stored somewhere? Is it clear who has action to take?
Intended PurposeWhat is the intended purpose of this call? Beyond the agenda, what is the impact of this meeting?
Achieved PurposeDoes this meeting accomplish the intended purpose? If not, what are the gaps?

The Takeaways

Is every call starting late (probably)? Is every meeting then going over (possibly)? Are there resources needed for a discussion that fail to attend? Are facilitators inconsistently sending out meeting notes, documenting action items, and ensuring completion? What is being shared? Is one facilitator leveraging one system and another an Excel? Are there more than a dozen individuals sitting on these calls that never say a word? Do any meetings even have an agenda?

The key thing to remember is that there’s no right or wrong answers to the above. Every organization is different, with different needs, different structures, etc. Maybe it’s ok to not have structured agendas across the board, perhaps there’s a large group that needs to listen in but not participate. But you have to collect the data first and make an informed decision with it. Even taking the effort to attend as many as you can could be illuminating enough for you. Your team is in a lot of calls and at the end of the day that will take a hit to productivity.

Are you doing this exercise for your own meetings? This is a great exercise and can empower you to better yourself in an area that is highly visible by many in your company. Key takeaways to take from the above data revolve around consistency. Is there consistency as far as format goes for the calls you’re running? When you can apply the same standards on the fundamentals of your meetings (agenda, document sharing, meeting notes) you develop an auto-pilot like rhythm that allows you to focus on some of the more challenging elements, like driving a productive conversation.

The last two rows in particular are where the honest conversation with yourself will happen. Do you understand the underlying purpose behind this meeting your running? Are you successful in achieving that purpose?

So, cancel those meetings. Or, make a concerted effort to understand what exactly is going on with everyone’s time all day.

How to Tame the “Sunday Scaries”

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The “Sunday Scaries” has cemented its presence on social media, representing the existential dread of the impending work week.  While this dread has been around since we’ve had a five day work week, it has propelled itself into prominence in the last few years.

I waded through Urban Dictionary to understand it better.  The leading definition starts as, “The feeling you have after a long week of work followed by a Saturday of binge drinking, when Sunday hits you question your existence.  Typically characterized by laying in bed all day and both regretting your past decisions and questioning your non-existent future”.  Wow, a lot darker than what I remembered when I first envisioned writing this article, but ah well. My process should help out at least a portion of that dread.  Not the binge-drinking anxiety, but certainly any concerns about your job in the next week.

Friday Afternoon

My routine starts on Friday afternoon.  I know.  Everyone wants to shut down and get the hell out of dodge and start the above referenced binge drinking that will make you leave your debit card in the 3rd bar on your weekend route.  However, if you take 15 minutes before closing up for the day, I promise it can make all the difference.

For 15 minutes I review the next week and I map out the following “3 and 3”:

  • My top 3 priorities for the next week
  • My first 3 hours of work on Monday

For my top 3 priorities I think about what deadlines or big meetings I have coming up, along with their impacts. These could be specific artifacts I need to develop, or even a core responsibility in my job function (maintaining a request queue, etc). I list out whatever I decide requires my focus in the next week to ensure I’m staying on top of my workload. This could even be a deliverable that isn’t due that week, but I know it’s going to require a considerable amount of time to get done.

Here’s what an example of my top 3 priorities for the next week look like:

After drafting up my priorities I start to get a sense what I want to work on and frame up how my Monday morning will look. I’m realistic in the first 30 minutes, knowing that there could be some items that come up that I need to flag and address. I get a sense for any meetings I may need to prep for on Monday, as well as contemplating when I can fit in some work on some of my top priorities outlined above.

A sample of my mapping out my first 3 hours for this coming Monday:

Alright, Friday afternoon prep is done, go forth to the weekend!

Sunday Evening

Alright, Sunday rolls around, your nerves are slightly eased from your Friday planning but there is more to be done to put you at ease.  Yep, there you are, laying in your bed subsisting on Cheetos or that DoorDash delivery you army crawled to get from your front door earlier in the day.  This next part requires some form of effort. You can do it. You may even be able to do it from your bed, depending on what your Monday looks like.

Think about your Monday that you’ve mapped out already and the logistics around the day.  Are you commuting?  Are you working from home?  Visualize what your morning routine will look like surrounding those first three hours and build a quick game plan for yourself.  Are you in the office and need to bring a lunch?  Venture to r/MealPrepSunday and get some inspo and throw something together this evening.  That action could even quell some of that anxiety, plus future you will be forever grateful.  Or you short cut it and accept that you’ll be ordering out for your Monday lunch, you’ll get them next time…sure…

This visualizing your Monday morning step can be as simple or complicated as you need, but I do take a few minutes to pull a plan together to really visualize my actions Monday morning to be successful.

In my scenario I’m working from home on Monday, but I have a lot of meetings throughout the day and may not get too much time outside.

Sunday night, my only activity is to set my alarm for 7am. This is a realistic time that I won’t snooze but will still allow me time to transition into the work day and take some time on the supporting tasks I map out below:

The above exercises utilize the power of planning and visualization. The future doesn’t have to be an unknown abyss, an unknown that allows my mind to wander through various existential crises. I’ve established what my priorities are for the week, I’ve mapped out my first few hours on Monday, and I’ve even reviewed those first few hours and planned what I’m going to do to support myself in the morning.

The “Sunday Scaries” don’t have to be a part of your weekly routine. They can be reduced considerably through simple planning, by establishing a game plan of what your future will look like. Start small, start with just one of the above elements, anything will make a powerful difference not just on your Sunday evening, but throughout the week.